Self requires logic, fun and sensitivity

As much as one likes to trust that the good times are “always” around the corner, there is still a need for personal accountability, discernment and an attitude of not letting go of one’s meaningful fun and well-being moments. Yes, many people act erratically and can undermine a voice of a vulnerable person, but the vulnerable one shall rise out of that very difficult time and own what they can take control of. In experiences of despair, we can still talk to God or nature, or change the path of our emotions by not allowing them to settle in harsh ways. Self-love is, therefore, our number one tool and an innate mechanism. It is a critical mechanism of survival, homeostasis and harmony.

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You have the power (always available to you if you choose to use it) to improve your emotional states. This might require that you look at things in a more comprehensive way, such as trying to explore and understand the reasons why others act the way they do, or why they commit offences and crimes. That’s why billions of people like to watch crime documentaries, even if they have previously suffered. They find them cathartic and enlightening, and they feel that they are not alone. When we understand what shapes our political-social-religious contexts, this brings a great deal of liberation and the knowing that healing is permanently taking place too, not just when we sit in our therapy sessions. Ultimately, you have free will and can at any time do what you really want for your life and you can honour your magnificent sensitivity. If you feel criticise for being highly sensitive, be reminded that the people that criticise you will probably need to face the facts about their own lack of sensitivity too. Passive-aggressive communication and behavioural styles never lead to great solutions; logic is, in my view, the only way out for all humanity.

Choose to love yourself in every moment, and to embrace your acquired wisdom with dignity and humility, and remember that joy is part of the existential universal fabric.

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SELF: One Quantic Light!

Self is one light, one quantic reality that focuses its attention selectively or with anger, and splits its oneness sense. The erratic and non-psychologically-minded pace of the world is a reflection of the deeds of this split energy.

The oneness sense has been torn apart, and from that body self, multiple and uneven extensions emerged. Through contradictions, fears, resentment, rejection, sublimation, repression habits, etc. There are varied fragments that require to be noticed and repaired. To notice is the number one action to take. Self is in my view one love energy moving towards its centre. Like one sun, that does not need or wish to be another natural element.

Self-love is then a healthier emotion to have in all circumstances, a place of drawing one’s energy closer to the purpose of being. Many times self-love is a subconscious action, in other words, something that one does but is not sure of the reasons why. Yet, still tries to not split any further, and to repair as much as is, at that moment, possible. When the self has forgotten to enjoy learning proactively, it is because it has diverted farther away from the primordial and initial essence. Generally, in these cases, there is quite a lot of trauma attached to it and neurodevelopmental needs associated. There is a huge divide in the identities of many, and you can tell by seeing what coping styles people adhere to… either denial, suppression or enquiry about the truth. I imagine that you already know which one is the farthest and the closest to the stage of rebuilding the full sense of self.

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Moral Health or Mental Health?

I am passionate about studying our dear philosopher Aristotle, who bravely flagged the idea of comprehensive respect being both the cure and the door for illness if not embraced because it creates a road of resentment and perpetually unresolved issues. Respect is possibly the best we can do for our health and mental health, although it is so undervalued!

In his first book Rhetoric, Aristotle could not make more sense about the misinformation present in the mentalities around 2500 years ago, and it is still so valid and contemporary! I believe that many people suffer in silence when they see violence around them because they know deep down that it is wrong and unfair. Aristotle in his reflection about logical communication and justice, in a highly succinct way, stated: “the arousing of prejudice, pity, anger, and similar emotions has nothing to do with the essential facts, but is merely a personal appeal to the man who is judging the case”.

The moral health’s dilemma is a precious thing to me and makes me even re-think the current connotation for “mental health” or “mental illness”. I am 100% rooted in this philosophy, I study it day and night, I can’t seem to get tired of it! It actually relaxes me when I read or think about it, It is my home! It feels to me that the public might be made to put their heads in the sand and imagine that actions, including words and emotions, are not powerful enough to generate any kind of emotional illness, when in fact these are highly intertwined in our bio-psycho-social development and very much a reflection of physics. A tree cannot sustain itself if the roots aren’t healthy, right?

Therefore, it is not only about saying the correct things but is about our communication becoming empowered by a genuine and unconditional love intention. Possibly that would even end the constructs of “mental illness”, and maybe ‘Moral Health’ or ‘Moral Illness’ would make a better term? I believe (from my years of research) that the need to be loving is more entrenched in our biochemistry and epigenetics than we can remember. I believe that in the future this could be the meaning used, or one of them!

I feel that I am not in this profession to only comply with the current scientific findings, but that I am a clinical psychologist to confront the biased social paradigms and the less impartial and inequitable loyalty systems. Hence, my interest in ancestral wisdom, which is something that some seem to ignore, even in existing mental health systems, with their demeanour, decoy and one-sided policies.

The Utopian Psychology Institute has the determination to facilitate and support the very necessary recognition from all citizens of the world concerning ethics & general health. These two are one element, in my view, because without love the mind and body can become quite debilitated. We offer rehabilitation protocols through our eclectic psychotherapy assessment and treatments. Love is our essence. Please follow our blog for more refreshing and down to earth content.

A study on Pace

Pace is very much a very important phenomenon of physics because it is the velocity of things, and how fast things go for you, or in your life. Each person in your life will have a particular pace including when using logical thinking, impulsivity, compulsion, judgement and or even when resting. People will think and do things differently.

There is a collective acceptance of “randomness” and that in itself it means that people are not paying attention to their own mechanisms, and to their own responsibility on operating the mechanisms.

It is important that we start reflecting about pace and contemplate whether our individual pace is something out of order, out of control, and if it needs to be brought back to the right control.

Many people don’t know this. They don’t know that they should be aware of when they are experiencing emotions and that they should validate their freedom within the circumstances they are experiencing.

The emotion speaks about the manner we put ourselves in our circumstances, and how we are doing, and in terms of the amount of unconditional self-love we have for ourselves.

We need to think about emotions as our best friends, not as external elements, as being internal instead. Something that we must analyse, and act on with care and sensitivity. The energy of the emotion (the emotion is energy) will drag on until it has been noticed and repaired.

The pace of not doing anything about it, or the pace of distracting yourself, is another subtype of pace that we should invest in thinking about. The distraction pace replaces the reflection one and creates havoc and also drains our vital force.

This is a good theme for today’s reflection, don’t you think? The question that can transform the way we look at and understand existence, in my view, and supports us contrasting the pace of our lives and to determine how we react to each other’s non-reflected paces.

I hope this makes some sense to you my dear reader, thank you for stopping by and being part of the group of interested people in the world.

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Sensualism is everywhere

I would like to alert you to the thematic of sensuality which is impregnated in the behaviours of many people and refers to intense looks, touch, words and fake promises. It is an ancestral problem that reveals unsteadiness in one’s moral sobriety. I find it quite repugnant when it is excessive, and it feels intense to acknowledge it because it is the trend these days ( in other words people decide to apply it), or it is how some people make a living.

People that have not experienced love in their childhood might exhibit this behaviour to attract to them what they instantaneously wish for because let’s face it, it is hypnotizing to have someone increasing their electro-magnetic power – related to their self-centred desires before you.

In my view, it is important to examine ourselves regarding this issue and to see if we are succumbing to the sensualism pattern. It is an intrinsic problem if it repeats all the time, of course, and occasionally I assume it is expected. However, has many great people have said we got to know how our minds work and be diligent with it too, as the mind generates the ideas about the behaviour that a person can have, right?

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Reflection over meal: Analogia da Batata – Potato Analogy

Para cozer bem uma batata é necessário o fogo, a panela, o fogo que se mantém ativo (moléculas necessárias para o fogo estar ativo), a panela com a tampa, água que vai aquecendo, a batata, a batata vai amolecendo, e depois não pode amolecer demais senão perde as qualidades e o efeito… e depois o diminuir e calibrar da intensidade do fogo e depois o desligar do fogo e está na hora de comer. Comer antes que fique fria! Pois, para isso as pessoas têm que reconhecer o tempo, e pôr a mesa a boas horas para usufruírem dessa experiencia quase milagrosa, cientifica, e de valor e alegria incondicional! E o degustar da batata e da experiência social… essa é outra missão… Encontro-me a degustar um Red Velvet cupcake (vegano) no Sugar Rabbit Kaffé em Albufeira! Que bom!

To cook a potato well, you need a fire, a pan, a fire that remains active (with the molecules necessary for the fire to keep active), a pan with a lid, heating water, the potato, the potato then softens, and then it can’t soften too much, or it loses its qualities and effect… and then it needs reducing and calibrating of the intensity of the fire, and then we must turn it off, and it’s time to eat! Let’s eat it before it gets cold! For this, people have to recognize the time and set the table at a good time to enjoy this almost miraculous experience, scientific, and of value and unconditional joy! Then the potato tasting and the social experience… this is another mission… I thought of this analogy during a magnificent moment when savouring a Vegan Red Velvet Cupcake and Oat Milk Cappuccino at the Sugar Rabbit Kaffé.

Seeking Volunteers

Are you keen to work with me on developing more avenues for multicultural mental health talks, education, prevention and treatment?


If this speaks to your soul, please do get in touch!

There are so many countries in the world in desperate need of information about their human and mental health rights! In Tunisia for example, I have learnt recently that many women face domestic violence every day, as well as in many other countries as you are aware. I would love to use my life to help others. If you would like to be part in this new project, please do get in contact. I will support you with important psychology material, so you feel equipped. Let’s be and make the difference that matters in this world. People from all cultural backgrounds are welcome naturally.

Self is Sexy

Do you feel vital energy in you sometimes? Like a volcano it comes. The eye contact that urges you to do… the charm, and seductive stance that you are drawn to… There is a beautiful, lively energy that instigates loving interaction and the need to get to know someone special.

Disclosure: I am writing this article with the idea that sensitive and smart individuals are reading it to enhance their self-discovery. It is not meant to cause any unpleasant experience or harm.

That vital force is perhaps a window to the soul, to the feeling of empowerment that individuals are able to sustain if they do the right things, including discovering the way their minds operate, body, relationships habits, and the natural dimensions of Self.

The warmth in the body raises as one feel seduced. The nervous system soothes and the attention levels increase. The body becomes more receptive to the experience. It opens up to the potential of encounter. The conversation becomes fuelled with a combined sense of purpose and predisposed for the union. Is this possibly the window to the powerful Self?

I believe it is. I believe that it is important to follow and be aware of a logical paradigm, too. Some logic would simply increase the potential for a happy and sustainable experience. What is the reasoning required?? It is probably one of intact self-love, in other words, the total recognition of one’s journey with all the ups and downs, and the noticing (with genuine intention) of one’s real emotions. A few emotions could be, for example: “I feel happy when I am with you”;, “I feel that you give me joy”, “I feel empowered or special”, etc. How beautiful this is to be experienced? It is without a question gorgeous!!!

It is not wrong or bad to feel good, it is meant to happen. Although that energy triggered by someone came from within yourself. You are the source of emotions and empowerment. Your mind gets triggered and envisions the possible dream life ahead. You can access it more as you remind yourself that Self is sexy. You are sexy, innately so.

Have a special day.

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To Worry Vs To Care

Is the world avoiding to care, so they don’t worry even more? What is your view?

A caring world would do us all an enormous service. There are definitely people that do care a lot about others, but also many that don’t want to feel connected to people due to worrying about failure, rejection and humiliation. Now, how does one get to grip with what really matters if we are not solid in the values of compassion, love and ethical co-construction?

If we could weigh both “worry” and “care” to compare on an old scale, which one would weigh more in our world? Maybe worry, although I would like to be certain! Hence, I am creating a questionnaire to spread around, so we can gain more insight about this subject.

Perhaps people feel that they have a lot already on their plates, including responsibilities, bills to pay, others to listen too and to answer that they feel that there is not much space for compassion, friendship, and even charity. However, research such as the 5 Ways to Well-being for example has demonstrated that to give our care to someone is an intrinsic part of our existence and is required for someone to feel comprehensively happy too. This piece of investigation, beautifully carried out by the New Economics Foundation, states that in order for human beings to achieve balanced well-being they need to: feel good about connecting to others, being active, taking notice mindfully, keep learning and giving or doing charity work. This definitely resonates and I have seen it revealing to be quite important and effective in my clinical work.

To worry implies walking on the narrowing avenue of cognitive and emotional amplification of the perceived “obstacle”. The aforementioned tends to contribute to the multiplication of stress chemicals, such as cortisol, and the rise of adrenaline in the bloodstream. Suddenly one will feel that there is a “danger” which in turn might lead to rushed, incomplete or even possibly unrealistic catastrophic conclusions/actions due to the overwhelming biochemical discharge.

If you are prone to worry, please consider receiving treatment, as it will not benefit you in the long term. It has been proven by science that creates a deficiency in our immune system and body functions and sustains chronic unhelpful thinking styles.

To care about your life and others on the other end will support good bio-psycho-social progress.

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When Recognition Meant Decapitation

We all are living a moment of transition. All it is coming forth, all the creatures hiding in the night with the purpose to hurt others will be identified. The past will be noticed. I do not doubt this as I am keen to make it happen! Are you? It only takes two people to change the world. I imagine that we are more than two by now!


I want to remind you why it is so difficult for anyone to point out an error or ask for progress. Historically, people were murdered for raising areas of improvement. No wonder why so much anxiety when faced with unfair treatment and the desire to do something about it.

The times are different now. We must keep reinforcing a philosophy of transparency, including in our individual lives. Do you agree?

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