Self is one light, one quantic reality that focuses its attention selectively or with anger, and splits its oneness sense. The erratic and non-psychologically-minded pace of the world is a reflection of the deeds of this split energy.
The oneness sense has been torn apart, and from that body self, multiple and uneven extensions emerged. Through contradictions, fears, resentment, rejection, sublimation, repression habits, etc. There are varied fragments that require to be noticed and repaired. To notice is the number one action to take. Self is in my view one love energy moving towards its centre. Like one sun, that does not need or wish to be another natural element.
Self-love is then a healthier emotion to have in all circumstances, a place of drawing one’s energy closer to the purpose of being. Many times self-love is a subconscious action, in other words, something that one does but is not sure of the reasons why. Yet, still tries to not split any further, and to repair as much as is, at that moment, possible. When the self has forgotten to enjoy learning proactively, it is because it has diverted farther away from the primordial and initial essence. Generally, in these cases, there is quite a lot of trauma attached to it and neurodevelopmental needs associated. There is a huge divide in the identities of many, and you can tell by seeing what coping styles people adhere to… either denial, suppression or enquiry about the truth. I imagine that you already know which one is the farthest and the closest to the stage of rebuilding the full sense of self.
I am a believer that ethics as a concept is older than the concept of psychology or mental health. It is evident if you look back in history. Even in the ancient religious scripts, people have been asked to refrain their judgement, crime, and lies. So why are some humans compulsive liars, for example? I am not dismissing at all the genetic inclination for particular thinking patterns and actions; I actually embrace it wholeheartedly. It is important to recognise the vulnerabilities and weaknesses of the heart or mind, but something really different is when individuals hide it and minimise it.
Certain human beings prefer reading gossip magazines although they know that judgement is wrong and they dwell in the joy of either belittling themselves or others in their minds: “this person is fatter than me, I could be on the front page! For example. There is still quite a lot of this mentality but small education on it. In the meantime, young women and men with this predisposition start developing eating disorders or obsessive and compulsive habits. How many times have I worked with parents of children that were in constant denial of their emotional displacement. “We speak about everything in this house,” they say; however, they cannot bear to talk about their emotional wounds from the past, without a lot of necessity present and encouragement.
In my view, our world requires to have a stronger baseline of ethics before anything else, instead of being guided by lies of consumerism, power and fame. Immediate gratification is not to be neglected by doctors and services; it is to be tackled in conversations if we spot it and to be addressed in the now. The immediate gratification is the root of addiction, compulsion, obsession, depression and aggression. We must crystallise our personal ethics before we open any magazine or watch the news next time.