To Worry Vs To Care

Is the world avoiding to care, so they don’t worry even more? What is your view?

A caring world would do us all an enormous service. There are definitely people that do care a lot about others, but also many that don’t want to feel connected to people due to worrying about failure, rejection and humiliation. Now, how does one get to grip with what really matters if we are not solid in the values of compassion, love and ethical co-construction?

If we could weigh both “worry” and “care” to compare on an old scale, which one would weigh more in our world? Maybe worry, although I would like to be certain! Hence, I am creating a questionnaire to spread around, so we can gain more insight about this subject.

Perhaps people feel that they have a lot already on their plates, including responsibilities, bills to pay, others to listen too and to answer that they feel that there is not much space for compassion, friendship, and even charity. However, research such as the 5 Ways to Well-being for example has demonstrated that to give our care to someone is an intrinsic part of our existence and is required for someone to feel comprehensively happy too. This piece of investigation, beautifully carried out by the New Economics Foundation, states that in order for human beings to achieve balanced well-being they need to: feel good about connecting to others, being active, taking notice mindfully, keep learning and giving or doing charity work. This definitely resonates and I have seen it revealing to be quite important and effective in my clinical work.

To worry implies walking on the narrowing avenue of cognitive and emotional amplification of the perceived “obstacle”. The aforementioned tends to contribute to the multiplication of stress chemicals, such as cortisol, and the rise of adrenaline in the bloodstream. Suddenly one will feel that there is a “danger” which in turn might lead to rushed, incomplete or even possibly unrealistic catastrophic conclusions/actions due to the overwhelming biochemical discharge.

If you are prone to worry, please consider receiving treatment, as it will not benefit you in the long term. It has been proven by science that creates a deficiency in our immune system and body functions and sustains chronic unhelpful thinking styles.

To care about your life and others on the other end will support good bio-psycho-social progress.

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Processing Speed

Processing speed is a faculty in the brain that requires to be exercised to operate comprehensively. Processing speed is the velocity at which a person takes in information, makes sense of it, and begins to answer. This information can be visual, like letters and numbers. It can also be auditory, like spoken language. Different people have different paces in processing information. Our communication depends on our ability to process information effectively, and to notice the subtleties of the relational exchange, which include the following:

A= Personal ability to notice effectively what people are expressing and a frank attitude to acknowledge what you understand or when you need to ask for clarification.

B= Personal ability to state the truth, without fear of persecution or oppression.

C= Personal ability to recognise how we feel in the moment, and commitment to universal rights.

Most arguments and conflicts happen due to a need to slow down the thinking to serve a better reflection and impartiality. The truth is always important for both parts, as it is essentially based in unconditional love. This powerful statement is beyond what we imagine currently, because it has the potential to support each individual in their emotional and mental calibration and self-awareness. This could be very protective for humanity.

Imagine a debate where people are only attacking each other with the things that they have failed upon, without punctuating how to make it better, as it is the debate of the American Presidential elections and a common practice of many politicians. This is an overreactive mentality, which aim does not seem to support the collective good for all, especially when the vice-presidents keep telling each other that they are lying, without explaining if they are or not and rushing to the next question instead. This can be felt as extremely confusing and deceptive, and it is! Assuming that “everyone knows it all” is the norm, which is unhealthy and detrimental to our mental health.

We must enquire deeper in the debate between 2 individuals, including on how they are achieving their reasoning and how they feel about it. Besides, we must demand facts as they are many vulnerable people with poor processing speed that are not prepared to think with complete self-care and attention to the important and truthful details. When there is anxiety in the mind while saying something, there will be space for error. Unfortunately, denial is also a problem because it is a common action and acceptable socially, which is again conceivably harmful.

Dear reader, let me ask you kindly. How dedicated are you in terms of taking responsibility for your own mental health? How much do you value it from zero to ten (none to a lot)? If you don’t value unconditional self-love and prioritise your well-being that much, it may indicate that your processing speed is rather slow in the matters of your own holistic self-care. I want to reassure you that it is possible to overcome this issue through specific researched interventions.

Please refer to my other articles and posts of my professional and personal Instagram for more openness on this subject, and feel free to approach me if you wish to book a session or have questions.

Your Mental Health is Your Responsibility

I have sad news for you. Your life circumstances are a product of your great or little attention to your well-being. You have abandoned knowing yourself to facilitate “happier” moments to other people. Have you? If not, congratulations.

Please stop blaming your spouse, children, parents and the economy, and allow yourself to feel more dignified. It is your care to the detail and pursuit of your happiness that are here in check.

Perhaps your difficulty is related to inertia or lethargy. If you feel stuck in your conditions than I recommend that you learn how to overcome the negative feelings from an easy and kind place. How can you defeat emotional lethargy? I have one simple and life-saving suggestion: don’t judge yourself and move on. Indeed move on with your new understanding and greater feeling, and reach your next important milestone which might be feeling healthier, inspired, energetic, satisfied, in love, in harmony, etc. Simply move on to a new positive feeling platform, even before you address trauma if you have endured it, feel good if not excellent first. Discover what is that you love and surround yourself with that.

It is your responsibility.

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