Self is one light, one quantic reality that focuses its attention selectively or with anger, and splits its oneness sense. The erratic and non-psychologically-minded pace of the world is a reflection of the deeds of this split energy.
The oneness sense has been torn apart, and from that body self, multiple and uneven extensions emerged. Through contradictions, fears, resentment, rejection, sublimation, repression habits, etc. There are varied fragments that require to be noticed and repaired. To notice is the number one action to take. Self is in my view one love energy moving towards its centre. Like one sun, that does not need or wish to be another natural element.
Self-love is then a healthier emotion to have in all circumstances, a place of drawing one’s energy closer to the purpose of being. Many times self-love is a subconscious action, in other words, something that one does but is not sure of the reasons why. Yet, still tries to not split any further, and to repair as much as is, at that moment, possible. When the self has forgotten to enjoy learning proactively, it is because it has diverted farther away from the primordial and initial essence. Generally, in these cases, there is quite a lot of trauma attached to it and neurodevelopmental needs associated. There is a huge divide in the identities of many, and you can tell by seeing what coping styles people adhere to… either denial, suppression or enquiry about the truth. I imagine that you already know which one is the farthest and the closest to the stage of rebuilding the full sense of self.
I have sad news for you. Your life circumstances are a product of your great or little attention to your well-being. You have abandoned knowing yourself to facilitate “happier” moments to other people. Have you? If not, congratulations.
Please stop blaming your spouse, children, parents and the economy, and allow yourself to feel more dignified. It is your care to the detail and pursuit of your happiness that are here in check.
Perhaps your difficulty is related to inertia or lethargy. If you feel stuck in your conditions than I recommend that you learn how to overcome the negative feelings from an easy and kind place. How can you defeat emotional lethargy? I have one simple and life-saving suggestion: don’t judge yourself and move on. Indeed move on with your new understanding and greater feeling, and reach your next important milestone which might be feeling healthier, inspired, energetic, satisfied, in love, in harmony, etc. Simply move on to a new positive feeling platform, even before you address trauma if you have endured it, feel good if not excellent first. Discover what is that you love and surround yourself with that.
Quantum physics is a science that investigates the smallest and most invisible and imperceptible elements that surround our existence, such as atoms, molecules, waves, etc.
I based my work and clinical approach on unconditional self-love which is the scientific self of all humans. Throughout the last decade of practicing as a clinical psychologist, I concluded that the mind cannot remain in one place, as it is quickly transported to varied emotional experiences, some of them experienced physically and others related to imagined or vicarious learning. In my work, I remind individuals of all ages about the many parallel roads that they tend to get stuck on, and are diverted from their original goal which tends to be feeling their confidence, authenticity, happiness, power, and/ or motivation. I also remind them of the intact and positive self that stays normally at the back, asking to be reunited with the mind, with the single purpose of living a fulfilled and meaningful life.
The self I am constantly referring to is the genuine identity that obeys to the laws of unconditional self-love, and it is basically comprised of energy, one of positive nature.
Imagine a glass filled with water, pure water, and suddenly you add a minuscule drop of blue ink, the water will no longer seem so transparent. This is exactly what I mean by unconditional self-love energy. It is a quantum reality, invisible; however at the basis on all creation because it never disentangles from the systems of homeostasis, regeneration, and therefore peace and joy.