Self is one light, one quantic reality that focuses its attention selectively or with anger, and splits its oneness sense. The erratic and non-psychologically-minded pace of the world is a reflection of the deeds of this split energy.
The oneness sense has been torn apart, and from that body self, multiple and uneven extensions emerged. Through contradictions, fears, resentment, rejection, sublimation, repression habits, etc. There are varied fragments that require to be noticed and repaired. To notice is the number one action to take. Self is in my view one love energy moving towards its centre. Like one sun, that does not need or wish to be another natural element.
Self-love is then a healthier emotion to have in all circumstances, a place of drawing one’s energy closer to the purpose of being. Many times self-love is a subconscious action, in other words, something that one does but is not sure of the reasons why. Yet, still tries to not split any further, and to repair as much as is, at that moment, possible. When the self has forgotten to enjoy learning proactively, it is because it has diverted farther away from the primordial and initial essence. Generally, in these cases, there is quite a lot of trauma attached to it and neurodevelopmental needs associated. There is a huge divide in the identities of many, and you can tell by seeing what coping styles people adhere to… either denial, suppression or enquiry about the truth. I imagine that you already know which one is the farthest and the closest to the stage of rebuilding the full sense of self.
Do you feel vital energy in you sometimes? Like a volcano it comes. The eye contact that urges you to do… the charm, and seductive stance that you are drawn to… There is a beautiful, lively energy that instigates loving interaction and the need to get to know someone special.
Disclosure: I am writing this article with the idea that sensitive and smart individuals are reading it to enhance their self-discovery. It is not meant to cause any unpleasant experience or harm.
That vital force is perhaps a window to the soul, to the feeling of empowerment that individuals are able to sustain if they do the right things, including discovering the way their minds operate, body, relationships habits, and the natural dimensions of Self.
The warmth in the body raises as one feel seduced. The nervous system soothes and the attention levels increase. The body becomes more receptive to the experience. It opens up to the potential of encounter. The conversation becomes fuelled with a combined sense of purpose and predisposed for the union. Is this possibly the window to the powerful Self?
I believe it is. I believe that it is important to follow and be aware of a logical paradigm, too. Some logic would simply increase the potential for a happy and sustainable experience. What is the reasoning required?? It is probably one of intact self-love, in other words, the total recognition of one’s journey with all the ups and downs, and the noticing (with genuine intention) of one’s real emotions. A few emotions could be, for example: “I feel happy when I am with you”;, “I feel that you give me joy”, “I feel empowered or special”, etc. How beautiful this is to be experienced? It is without a question gorgeous!!!
It is not wrong or bad to feel good, it is meant to happen. Although that energy triggered by someone came from within yourself. You are the source of emotions and empowerment. Your mind gets triggered and envisions the possible dream life ahead. You can access it more as you remind yourself that Self is sexy. You are sexy, innately so.
A caring nature is the key and the portal of success, happiness, love, abundance and personal integration.
When individuals split their attention to accommodate stronger and harsher emotions such as anger, hate and resentment, they embark on a journey of dissociation from the whole equation. Imagine a neighbour of yours having gone through the split: How do you think they would behave? Would they feel frequently on edge? Perhaps suspicious and anxious around other people? The split of oneself genuine well-being to embrace fear and worry as the norm, if not understood leaves in individuals deep wounds and their personalities becomes identified with what they perceive and repeatedly suffer from. Of course, there will be situations when it is totally valid to experience fear, worry and dislike; though if this is left unnoticed, there lies the beginning of a possible issue.
I practice clinical psychology with the sentiment that all people have importance and that no one should be made to feel devalued. This principle is something new for many as the mainstream mentality and historical evolution have prioritized pleasing to others. For instance if we pay attention to the expectations related to meeting deadlines, or achieving particular status, financial ranks, family and religious status, we will see that these are some of the social constructs that can ignite in individuals a fight-flight-freeze answer. It is rather difficult to prevent it because it needs to be understood instead! In my sessions I work with my clients on supporting them to notice their emotions better and without any fear. This tends to be useful because it decreases the habit of skipping the noticing stage for quick, fruitless and not very sustainable resolutions. We all need to become fearless about self-analysis, in my view.
I believe that when individuals start making space to care about each other and understand from the other’s angle, whilst not suppressing their emotions, there will be a beautiful evolutionary momentum in the world. Would you agree?