Self requires logic, fun and sensitivity

As much as one likes to trust that the good times are “always” around the corner, there is still a need for personal accountability, discernment and an attitude of not letting go of one’s meaningful fun and well-being moments. Yes, many people act erratically and can undermine a voice of a vulnerable person, but the vulnerable one shall rise out of that very difficult time and own what they can take control of. In experiences of despair, we can still talk to God or nature, or change the path of our emotions by not allowing them to settle in harsh ways. Self-love is, therefore, our number one tool and an innate mechanism. It is a critical mechanism of survival, homeostasis and harmony.

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You have the power (always available to you if you choose to use it) to improve your emotional states. This might require that you look at things in a more comprehensive way, such as trying to explore and understand the reasons why others act the way they do, or why they commit offences and crimes. That’s why billions of people like to watch crime documentaries, even if they have previously suffered. They find them cathartic and enlightening, and they feel that they are not alone. When we understand what shapes our political-social-religious contexts, this brings a great deal of liberation and the knowing that healing is permanently taking place too, not just when we sit in our therapy sessions. Ultimately, you have free will and can at any time do what you really want for your life and you can honour your magnificent sensitivity. If you feel criticise for being highly sensitive, be reminded that the people that criticise you will probably need to face the facts about their own lack of sensitivity too. Passive-aggressive communication and behavioural styles never lead to great solutions; logic is, in my view, the only way out for all humanity.

Choose to love yourself in every moment, and to embrace your acquired wisdom with dignity and humility, and remember that joy is part of the existential universal fabric.

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Moral Health or Mental Health?

I am passionate about studying our dear philosopher Aristotle, who bravely flagged the idea of comprehensive respect being both the cure and the door for illness if not embraced because it creates a road of resentment and perpetually unresolved issues. Respect is possibly the best we can do for our health and mental health, although it is so undervalued!

In his first book Rhetoric, Aristotle could not make more sense about the misinformation present in the mentalities around 2500 years ago, and it is still so valid and contemporary! I believe that many people suffer in silence when they see violence around them because they know deep down that it is wrong and unfair. Aristotle in his reflection about logical communication and justice, in a highly succinct way, stated: “the arousing of prejudice, pity, anger, and similar emotions has nothing to do with the essential facts, but is merely a personal appeal to the man who is judging the case”.

The moral health’s dilemma is a precious thing to me and makes me even re-think the current connotation for “mental health” or “mental illness”. I am 100% rooted in this philosophy, I study it day and night, I can’t seem to get tired of it! It actually relaxes me when I read or think about it, It is my home! It feels to me that the public might be made to put their heads in the sand and imagine that actions, including words and emotions, are not powerful enough to generate any kind of emotional illness, when in fact these are highly intertwined in our bio-psycho-social development and very much a reflection of physics. A tree cannot sustain itself if the roots aren’t healthy, right?

Therefore, it is not only about saying the correct things but is about our communication becoming empowered by a genuine and unconditional love intention. Possibly that would even end the constructs of “mental illness”, and maybe ‘Moral Health’ or ‘Moral Illness’ would make a better term? I believe (from my years of research) that the need to be loving is more entrenched in our biochemistry and epigenetics than we can remember. I believe that in the future this could be the meaning used, or one of them!

I feel that I am not in this profession to only comply with the current scientific findings, but that I am a clinical psychologist to confront the biased social paradigms and the less impartial and inequitable loyalty systems. Hence, my interest in ancestral wisdom, which is something that some seem to ignore, even in existing mental health systems, with their demeanour, decoy and one-sided policies.

The Utopian Psychology Institute has the determination to facilitate and support the very necessary recognition from all citizens of the world concerning ethics & general health. These two are one element, in my view, because without love the mind and body can become quite debilitated. We offer rehabilitation protocols through our eclectic psychotherapy assessment and treatments. Love is our essence. Please follow our blog for more refreshing and down to earth content.

A study on Pace

Pace is very much a very important phenomenon of physics because it is the velocity of things, and how fast things go for you, or in your life. Each person in your life will have a particular pace including when using logical thinking, impulsivity, compulsion, judgement and or even when resting. People will think and do things differently.

There is a collective acceptance of “randomness” and that in itself it means that people are not paying attention to their own mechanisms, and to their own responsibility on operating the mechanisms.

It is important that we start reflecting about pace and contemplate whether our individual pace is something out of order, out of control, and if it needs to be brought back to the right control.

Many people don’t know this. They don’t know that they should be aware of when they are experiencing emotions and that they should validate their freedom within the circumstances they are experiencing.

The emotion speaks about the manner we put ourselves in our circumstances, and how we are doing, and in terms of the amount of unconditional self-love we have for ourselves.

We need to think about emotions as our best friends, not as external elements, as being internal instead. Something that we must analyse, and act on with care and sensitivity. The energy of the emotion (the emotion is energy) will drag on until it has been noticed and repaired.

The pace of not doing anything about it, or the pace of distracting yourself, is another subtype of pace that we should invest in thinking about. The distraction pace replaces the reflection one and creates havoc and also drains our vital force.

This is a good theme for today’s reflection, don’t you think? The question that can transform the way we look at and understand existence, in my view, and supports us contrasting the pace of our lives and to determine how we react to each other’s non-reflected paces.

I hope this makes some sense to you my dear reader, thank you for stopping by and being part of the group of interested people in the world.

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Reflection over meal: Analogia da Batata – Potato Analogy

Para cozer bem uma batata é necessário o fogo, a panela, o fogo que se mantém ativo (moléculas necessárias para o fogo estar ativo), a panela com a tampa, água que vai aquecendo, a batata, a batata vai amolecendo, e depois não pode amolecer demais senão perde as qualidades e o efeito… e depois o diminuir e calibrar da intensidade do fogo e depois o desligar do fogo e está na hora de comer. Comer antes que fique fria! Pois, para isso as pessoas têm que reconhecer o tempo, e pôr a mesa a boas horas para usufruírem dessa experiencia quase milagrosa, cientifica, e de valor e alegria incondicional! E o degustar da batata e da experiência social… essa é outra missão… Encontro-me a degustar um Red Velvet cupcake (vegano) no Sugar Rabbit Kaffé em Albufeira! Que bom!

To cook a potato well, you need a fire, a pan, a fire that remains active (with the molecules necessary for the fire to keep active), a pan with a lid, heating water, the potato, the potato then softens, and then it can’t soften too much, or it loses its qualities and effect… and then it needs reducing and calibrating of the intensity of the fire, and then we must turn it off, and it’s time to eat! Let’s eat it before it gets cold! For this, people have to recognize the time and set the table at a good time to enjoy this almost miraculous experience, scientific, and of value and unconditional joy! Then the potato tasting and the social experience… this is another mission… I thought of this analogy during a magnificent moment when savouring a Vegan Red Velvet Cupcake and Oat Milk Cappuccino at the Sugar Rabbit Kaffé.

Self is Sexy

Do you feel vital energy in you sometimes? Like a volcano it comes. The eye contact that urges you to do… the charm, and seductive stance that you are drawn to… There is a beautiful, lively energy that instigates loving interaction and the need to get to know someone special.

Disclosure: I am writing this article with the idea that sensitive and smart individuals are reading it to enhance their self-discovery. It is not meant to cause any unpleasant experience or harm.

That vital force is perhaps a window to the soul, to the feeling of empowerment that individuals are able to sustain if they do the right things, including discovering the way their minds operate, body, relationships habits, and the natural dimensions of Self.

The warmth in the body raises as one feel seduced. The nervous system soothes and the attention levels increase. The body becomes more receptive to the experience. It opens up to the potential of encounter. The conversation becomes fuelled with a combined sense of purpose and predisposed for the union. Is this possibly the window to the powerful Self?

I believe it is. I believe that it is important to follow and be aware of a logical paradigm, too. Some logic would simply increase the potential for a happy and sustainable experience. What is the reasoning required?? It is probably one of intact self-love, in other words, the total recognition of one’s journey with all the ups and downs, and the noticing (with genuine intention) of one’s real emotions. A few emotions could be, for example: “I feel happy when I am with you”;, “I feel that you give me joy”, “I feel empowered or special”, etc. How beautiful this is to be experienced? It is without a question gorgeous!!!

It is not wrong or bad to feel good, it is meant to happen. Although that energy triggered by someone came from within yourself. You are the source of emotions and empowerment. Your mind gets triggered and envisions the possible dream life ahead. You can access it more as you remind yourself that Self is sexy. You are sexy, innately so.

Have a special day.

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To Worry Vs To Care

Is the world avoiding to care, so they don’t worry even more? What is your view?

A caring world would do us all an enormous service. There are definitely people that do care a lot about others, but also many that don’t want to feel connected to people due to worrying about failure, rejection and humiliation. Now, how does one get to grip with what really matters if we are not solid in the values of compassion, love and ethical co-construction?

If we could weigh both “worry” and “care” to compare on an old scale, which one would weigh more in our world? Maybe worry, although I would like to be certain! Hence, I am creating a questionnaire to spread around, so we can gain more insight about this subject.

Perhaps people feel that they have a lot already on their plates, including responsibilities, bills to pay, others to listen too and to answer that they feel that there is not much space for compassion, friendship, and even charity. However, research such as the 5 Ways to Well-being for example has demonstrated that to give our care to someone is an intrinsic part of our existence and is required for someone to feel comprehensively happy too. This piece of investigation, beautifully carried out by the New Economics Foundation, states that in order for human beings to achieve balanced well-being they need to: feel good about connecting to others, being active, taking notice mindfully, keep learning and giving or doing charity work. This definitely resonates and I have seen it revealing to be quite important and effective in my clinical work.

To worry implies walking on the narrowing avenue of cognitive and emotional amplification of the perceived “obstacle”. The aforementioned tends to contribute to the multiplication of stress chemicals, such as cortisol, and the rise of adrenaline in the bloodstream. Suddenly one will feel that there is a “danger” which in turn might lead to rushed, incomplete or even possibly unrealistic catastrophic conclusions/actions due to the overwhelming biochemical discharge.

If you are prone to worry, please consider receiving treatment, as it will not benefit you in the long term. It has been proven by science that creates a deficiency in our immune system and body functions and sustains chronic unhelpful thinking styles.

To care about your life and others on the other end will support good bio-psycho-social progress.

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Identity Loss

What is an identity? An attempt to randomly establish better conditions with no logic? Does it need logic? I’ve realised that when there is more logic and down to earth intention, the better consistency it has. What do I mean by consistency? I think it means to be loyal to transparent and universal values.

Since a very young age, I have been eager to meet kind and strong people. I felt many times disappointed as the kind part would quickly vanish. Did this happen to you before?

The impact of a strong personality is generally speaking huge. I experienced it as being bold, secretive and artificially seductive . I almost got to think that there was more potential and happiness to such identities. Today I realise that there is more pain accumulated most of the time. After I re-analysed my values and stipulated what I believe to be necessary, soon I have become even angry with those that try to take advantage of others through glamour, despite the fact that I understand that there is unprocessed personal experiences. In addition, with this came a scientific understanding of our minds and intentions mechanisms which I found to be enhancing; of course, no point in crying over the past, mainly because there is only the present moment, and the more I can thoroughly enjoy it the better for me.

The loss of the “solid” identity is also correlated to NOT diligently embracing the truth, wisdom and fair treatment of others. How we treat others does impact our ability to sustain a positive well-being balance.

“Awakening”

There is a trend called the awakening or ascension that has been inspiring many people to develop their connection with nature, love, God, and themselves too. For centuries many disciplines including religion, maths, science, journalism, theatre seem to have channelled the “desire for more”, the desire to transcend social limitations and understand them (the latest being less relevant in our consciousness, unfortunately). Is the desire perhaps the real meaning of spirituality? Is the desire in the end the driving force that keeps us alive, engaged, curious, and proactive?

Many people struggle to embrace their desires. They leave this to the end of their journey, even. Is floating with endurance the same thing as actively exploring and adventuring? I don’t believe it is. Endurance refers to a more passive stance, totally valid too, as at times we have to survive, or still keep processing quite a lot of experiences, and therefore we might not feel apt to do more. Does this make sense to you? When we do not find the strength to do more we should honour our efforts so far, understand the limitations in ourselves and others and stick to our own journey and personal rhythm. We will never find 2 individuals with the exact same pace, inclinations, life experiences, limitations, etc. Is this something to feel bad about or to accept? To accept and love without a doubt. Hence, the need to wake to loving your singular existence.

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3 Diamonds

In my work, I make space for the correlation of important elements that are enhancing of a positive and truthful well-being. They are assertiveness, psychological homeostasis and evolution or learning.

Assertiveness speaks of trying to be kind and sincere with your yourself whilst you are being considerate and acting diligently with others around you too. This is highly important but also requires previous homework of exploration of who you are, your real intentions and your innate entitlements. Please read up my previous posts for more content on your innate entitlements.

Psychological homeostasis refers to the individual’s understanding of their own optimal developmental environment and needs. It invites you to take a step back and contemplate what are your real needs. What is a “need?” A need is related to the mechanisms of self-regulation that you might be lacking, in other words, the insight about how you can get easily stuck to a sentiment that there is something lacking in you, or in your life in general. Nothing really is lacking in a human being as we are equipped with all cognitive skills we require in order to reason, make decisions, communicate and survive properly. Why are people not communicating properly these days? A good question to reflect upon, I think.

Evolution or learning refers to the flexibility that is required in the singular ascension. A person needs to be open-minded, so they can overcome challenging times by seeking the truth in them. There are many people stubbornly just professing ideologies and using a loud voice or a passive-aggressive stance, which makes others that are more sensitive and shy, either avoid speaking up and fall behind in their introspection and happiness. Although, the point of this article is that YOU become self-sustainable and not shaken off so quickly by other people’s views of you, or the world around you.

Be aware that you do create your reality, your climate.

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All that it takes is to care!

A caring nature is the key and the portal of success, happiness, love, abundance and personal integration.

When individuals split their attention to accommodate stronger and harsher emotions such as anger, hate and resentment, they embark on a journey of dissociation from the whole equation. Imagine a neighbour of yours having gone through the split: How do you think they would behave? Would they feel frequently on edge? Perhaps suspicious and anxious around other people? The split of oneself genuine well-being to embrace fear and worry as the norm, if not understood leaves in individuals deep wounds and their personalities becomes identified with what they perceive and repeatedly suffer from. Of course, there will be situations when it is totally valid to experience fear, worry and dislike; though if this is left unnoticed, there lies the beginning of a possible issue.

I practice clinical psychology with the sentiment that all people have importance and that no one should be made to feel devalued. This principle is something new for many as the mainstream mentality and historical evolution have prioritized pleasing to others. For instance if we pay attention to the expectations related to meeting deadlines, or achieving particular status, financial ranks, family and religious status, we will see that these are some of the social constructs that can ignite in individuals a fight-flight-freeze answer. It is rather difficult to prevent it because it needs to be understood instead! In my sessions I work with my clients on supporting them to notice their emotions better and without any fear. This tends to be useful because it decreases the habit of skipping the noticing stage for quick, fruitless and not very sustainable resolutions. We all need to become fearless about self-analysis, in my view.

I believe that when individuals start making space to care about each other and understand from the other’s angle, whilst not suppressing their emotions, there will be a beautiful evolutionary momentum in the world. Would you agree?

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