Self requires logic, fun and sensitivity

As much as one likes to trust that the good times are “always” around the corner, there is still a need for personal accountability, discernment and an attitude of not letting go of one’s meaningful fun and well-being moments. Yes, many people act erratically and can undermine a voice of a vulnerable person, but the vulnerable one shall rise out of that very difficult time and own what they can take control of. In experiences of despair, we can still talk to God or nature, or change the path of our emotions by not allowing them to settle in harsh ways. Self-love is, therefore, our number one tool and an innate mechanism. It is a critical mechanism of survival, homeostasis and harmony.

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You have the power (always available to you if you choose to use it) to improve your emotional states. This might require that you look at things in a more comprehensive way, such as trying to explore and understand the reasons why others act the way they do, or why they commit offences and crimes. That’s why billions of people like to watch crime documentaries, even if they have previously suffered. They find them cathartic and enlightening, and they feel that they are not alone. When we understand what shapes our political-social-religious contexts, this brings a great deal of liberation and the knowing that healing is permanently taking place too, not just when we sit in our therapy sessions. Ultimately, you have free will and can at any time do what you really want for your life and you can honour your magnificent sensitivity. If you feel criticise for being highly sensitive, be reminded that the people that criticise you will probably need to face the facts about their own lack of sensitivity too. Passive-aggressive communication and behavioural styles never lead to great solutions; logic is, in my view, the only way out for all humanity.

Choose to love yourself in every moment, and to embrace your acquired wisdom with dignity and humility, and remember that joy is part of the existential universal fabric.

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Moral Health or Mental Health?

I am passionate about studying our dear philosopher Aristotle, who bravely flagged the idea of comprehensive respect being both the cure and the door for illness if not embraced because it creates a road of resentment and perpetually unresolved issues. Respect is possibly the best we can do for our health and mental health, although it is so undervalued!

In his first book Rhetoric, Aristotle could not make more sense about the misinformation present in the mentalities around 2500 years ago, and it is still so valid and contemporary! I believe that many people suffer in silence when they see violence around them because they know deep down that it is wrong and unfair. Aristotle in his reflection about logical communication and justice, in a highly succinct way, stated: “the arousing of prejudice, pity, anger, and similar emotions has nothing to do with the essential facts, but is merely a personal appeal to the man who is judging the case”.

The moral health’s dilemma is a precious thing to me and makes me even re-think the current connotation for “mental health” or “mental illness”. I am 100% rooted in this philosophy, I study it day and night, I can’t seem to get tired of it! It actually relaxes me when I read or think about it, It is my home! It feels to me that the public might be made to put their heads in the sand and imagine that actions, including words and emotions, are not powerful enough to generate any kind of emotional illness, when in fact these are highly intertwined in our bio-psycho-social development and very much a reflection of physics. A tree cannot sustain itself if the roots aren’t healthy, right?

Therefore, it is not only about saying the correct things but is about our communication becoming empowered by a genuine and unconditional love intention. Possibly that would even end the constructs of “mental illness”, and maybe ‘Moral Health’ or ‘Moral Illness’ would make a better term? I believe (from my years of research) that the need to be loving is more entrenched in our biochemistry and epigenetics than we can remember. I believe that in the future this could be the meaning used, or one of them!

I feel that I am not in this profession to only comply with the current scientific findings, but that I am a clinical psychologist to confront the biased social paradigms and the less impartial and inequitable loyalty systems. Hence, my interest in ancestral wisdom, which is something that some seem to ignore, even in existing mental health systems, with their demeanour, decoy and one-sided policies.

The Utopian Psychology Institute has the determination to facilitate and support the very necessary recognition from all citizens of the world concerning ethics & general health. These two are one element, in my view, because without love the mind and body can become quite debilitated. We offer rehabilitation protocols through our eclectic psychotherapy assessment and treatments. Love is our essence. Please follow our blog for more refreshing and down to earth content.

A study on Pace

Pace is very much a very important phenomenon of physics because it is the velocity of things, and how fast things go for you, or in your life. Each person in your life will have a particular pace including when using logical thinking, impulsivity, compulsion, judgement and or even when resting. People will think and do things differently.

There is a collective acceptance of “randomness” and that in itself it means that people are not paying attention to their own mechanisms, and to their own responsibility on operating the mechanisms.

It is important that we start reflecting about pace and contemplate whether our individual pace is something out of order, out of control, and if it needs to be brought back to the right control.

Many people don’t know this. They don’t know that they should be aware of when they are experiencing emotions and that they should validate their freedom within the circumstances they are experiencing.

The emotion speaks about the manner we put ourselves in our circumstances, and how we are doing, and in terms of the amount of unconditional self-love we have for ourselves.

We need to think about emotions as our best friends, not as external elements, as being internal instead. Something that we must analyse, and act on with care and sensitivity. The energy of the emotion (the emotion is energy) will drag on until it has been noticed and repaired.

The pace of not doing anything about it, or the pace of distracting yourself, is another subtype of pace that we should invest in thinking about. The distraction pace replaces the reflection one and creates havoc and also drains our vital force.

This is a good theme for today’s reflection, don’t you think? The question that can transform the way we look at and understand existence, in my view, and supports us contrasting the pace of our lives and to determine how we react to each other’s non-reflected paces.

I hope this makes some sense to you my dear reader, thank you for stopping by and being part of the group of interested people in the world.

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Reflection over meal: Analogia da Batata – Potato Analogy

Para cozer bem uma batata é necessário o fogo, a panela, o fogo que se mantém ativo (moléculas necessárias para o fogo estar ativo), a panela com a tampa, água que vai aquecendo, a batata, a batata vai amolecendo, e depois não pode amolecer demais senão perde as qualidades e o efeito… e depois o diminuir e calibrar da intensidade do fogo e depois o desligar do fogo e está na hora de comer. Comer antes que fique fria! Pois, para isso as pessoas têm que reconhecer o tempo, e pôr a mesa a boas horas para usufruírem dessa experiencia quase milagrosa, cientifica, e de valor e alegria incondicional! E o degustar da batata e da experiência social… essa é outra missão… Encontro-me a degustar um Red Velvet cupcake (vegano) no Sugar Rabbit Kaffé em Albufeira! Que bom!

To cook a potato well, you need a fire, a pan, a fire that remains active (with the molecules necessary for the fire to keep active), a pan with a lid, heating water, the potato, the potato then softens, and then it can’t soften too much, or it loses its qualities and effect… and then it needs reducing and calibrating of the intensity of the fire, and then we must turn it off, and it’s time to eat! Let’s eat it before it gets cold! For this, people have to recognize the time and set the table at a good time to enjoy this almost miraculous experience, scientific, and of value and unconditional joy! Then the potato tasting and the social experience… this is another mission… I thought of this analogy during a magnificent moment when savouring a Vegan Red Velvet Cupcake and Oat Milk Cappuccino at the Sugar Rabbit Kaffé.

Identity Loss

What is an identity? An attempt to randomly establish better conditions with no logic? Does it need logic? I’ve realised that when there is more logic and down to earth intention, the better consistency it has. What do I mean by consistency? I think it means to be loyal to transparent and universal values.

Since a very young age, I have been eager to meet kind and strong people. I felt many times disappointed as the kind part would quickly vanish. Did this happen to you before?

The impact of a strong personality is generally speaking huge. I experienced it as being bold, secretive and artificially seductive . I almost got to think that there was more potential and happiness to such identities. Today I realise that there is more pain accumulated most of the time. After I re-analysed my values and stipulated what I believe to be necessary, soon I have become even angry with those that try to take advantage of others through glamour, despite the fact that I understand that there is unprocessed personal experiences. In addition, with this came a scientific understanding of our minds and intentions mechanisms which I found to be enhancing; of course, no point in crying over the past, mainly because there is only the present moment, and the more I can thoroughly enjoy it the better for me.

The loss of the “solid” identity is also correlated to NOT diligently embracing the truth, wisdom and fair treatment of others. How we treat others does impact our ability to sustain a positive well-being balance.

“Awakening”

There is a trend called the awakening or ascension that has been inspiring many people to develop their connection with nature, love, God, and themselves too. For centuries many disciplines including religion, maths, science, journalism, theatre seem to have channelled the “desire for more”, the desire to transcend social limitations and understand them (the latest being less relevant in our consciousness, unfortunately). Is the desire perhaps the real meaning of spirituality? Is the desire in the end the driving force that keeps us alive, engaged, curious, and proactive?

Many people struggle to embrace their desires. They leave this to the end of their journey, even. Is floating with endurance the same thing as actively exploring and adventuring? I don’t believe it is. Endurance refers to a more passive stance, totally valid too, as at times we have to survive, or still keep processing quite a lot of experiences, and therefore we might not feel apt to do more. Does this make sense to you? When we do not find the strength to do more we should honour our efforts so far, understand the limitations in ourselves and others and stick to our own journey and personal rhythm. We will never find 2 individuals with the exact same pace, inclinations, life experiences, limitations, etc. Is this something to feel bad about or to accept? To accept and love without a doubt. Hence, the need to wake to loving your singular existence.

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Trespassers

The times we face are interesting and strongly synchronised with the collective homeostasis, not just the earth, but with our physiology, ethics and morality.

Human beings have been trespassers because they can’t seem to be able to wait in the line but instead, they jump queues or stop to look or admire what other people are doing which results in them abandoning their magnificent singular growth temporarily. Like a traffic jam where traffic lights are not respected, and instead, the drivers go in front of each other causing delays and inconvenience, and sometimes they don’t carry the kindest intentions at heart. 

The examples of trespassing are:

  • To inflict unnecessary pain on others
  • To be dishonest in order to achieve recognition
  • To copy someone’s work and profit from it
  • To criticise people harshly and make them feel humiliated, etc…

I see that the current times are asking people to take a slower approach in life. How can we not do it? The benefits are numerous:

  • Better focus
  • Better memory
  • Better decision-making
  • Increase care and compassion
  • Increase creativity
  • Better union and laws
  • No jumping ahead, and instead analysis of singular present moment

We must honour what makes us so unique. We are intelligent corpora that have cognitive faculties that have been neglected. This, unfortunately, resulted in the violation of human rights throughout the many timelines and social epochs, and sadly still occurs. As we slow down and understand our bio-psycho-social existence, it is only likely that we can and will reap much higher long-term meaningful results.

Processing Speed

Processing speed is a faculty in the brain that requires to be exercised to operate comprehensively. Processing speed is the velocity at which a person takes in information, makes sense of it, and begins to answer. This information can be visual, like letters and numbers. It can also be auditory, like spoken language. Different people have different paces in processing information. Our communication depends on our ability to process information effectively, and to notice the subtleties of the relational exchange, which include the following:

A= Personal ability to notice effectively what people are expressing and a frank attitude to acknowledge what you understand or when you need to ask for clarification.

B= Personal ability to state the truth, without fear of persecution or oppression.

C= Personal ability to recognise how we feel in the moment, and commitment to universal rights.

Most arguments and conflicts happen due to a need to slow down the thinking to serve a better reflection and impartiality. The truth is always important for both parts, as it is essentially based in unconditional love. This powerful statement is beyond what we imagine currently, because it has the potential to support each individual in their emotional and mental calibration and self-awareness. This could be very protective for humanity.

Imagine a debate where people are only attacking each other with the things that they have failed upon, without punctuating how to make it better, as it is the debate of the American Presidential elections and a common practice of many politicians. This is an overreactive mentality, which aim does not seem to support the collective good for all, especially when the vice-presidents keep telling each other that they are lying, without explaining if they are or not and rushing to the next question instead. This can be felt as extremely confusing and deceptive, and it is! Assuming that “everyone knows it all” is the norm, which is unhealthy and detrimental to our mental health.

We must enquire deeper in the debate between 2 individuals, including on how they are achieving their reasoning and how they feel about it. Besides, we must demand facts as they are many vulnerable people with poor processing speed that are not prepared to think with complete self-care and attention to the important and truthful details. When there is anxiety in the mind while saying something, there will be space for error. Unfortunately, denial is also a problem because it is a common action and acceptable socially, which is again conceivably harmful.

Dear reader, let me ask you kindly. How dedicated are you in terms of taking responsibility for your own mental health? How much do you value it from zero to ten (none to a lot)? If you don’t value unconditional self-love and prioritise your well-being that much, it may indicate that your processing speed is rather slow in the matters of your own holistic self-care. I want to reassure you that it is possible to overcome this issue through specific researched interventions.

Please refer to my other articles and posts of my professional and personal Instagram for more openness on this subject, and feel free to approach me if you wish to book a session or have questions.

Quantum Psychology

Quantum physics is a science that investigates the smallest and most invisible and imperceptible elements that surround our existence, such as atoms, molecules, waves, etc.

I based my work and clinical approach on unconditional self-love which is the scientific self of all humans. Throughout the last decade of practicing as a clinical psychologist, I concluded that the mind cannot remain in one place, as it is quickly transported to varied emotional experiences, some of them experienced physically and others related to imagined or vicarious learning. In my work, I remind individuals of all ages about the many parallel roads that they tend to get stuck on, and are diverted from their original goal which tends to be feeling their confidence, authenticity, happiness, power, and/ or motivation. I also remind them of the intact and positive self that stays normally at the back, asking to be reunited with the mind, with the single purpose of living a fulfilled and meaningful life.

The self I am constantly referring to is the genuine identity that obeys to the laws of unconditional self-love, and it is basically comprised of energy, one of positive nature.

Imagine a glass filled with water, pure water, and suddenly you add a minuscule drop of blue ink, the water will no longer seem so transparent. This is exactly what I mean by unconditional self-love energy. It is a quantum reality, invisible; however at the basis on all creation because it never disentangles from the systems of homeostasis, regeneration, and therefore peace and joy.